3/20/2024 0 Comments Enneagram type 3 wing 2It is an intensely powerful experience, the moment a 3w2 stops their performance…and realizes there’s a group of people that didn’t leave. Guess what? It’s probably way more people than you think. But hear me out: when you fail, you are able to look around and see who is still there who still likes you for who you really are. If you’re a 3w2, I know you just squirmed a little bit. I have a friend who likes to say the greatest thing that a Three can do is fail. Often we might know in our minds that performance does not equal love, but somehow our heart is still holding onto “performance” as a way to gain worthiness. I know it’s hard to believe that because all your life you’ve believed you have to perform to be worthy of love. You are valuable and worthy of love because you are you. You don’t have to do or be everything for everyone. Your value is not defined by your output or by your carefully-crafted image. But they don’t need you to always be doing things for them. Your success is not what makes you loved. If you’re reading all this and you’re thinking, “dang, this post has my number,” hear this: That boundless Energizer Bunny energy is always ready to serve, care for, and champion others. This is no small thing! It’s a gift that makes 3w2s great team leads, bosses, parents, and group organizers.ģw2s care deeply about their community and their close circles. Threes with a Two wing are gifted communicators because they have a knack for understanding and connecting with people and can communicate in a way that makes others feel cared for and understood. The same skills that can cause an unhealthy 3w2 to resort to manipulation can also be used to connect with others and be a charismatic and courageous leader at work, in the home, or anywhere else. Their natural air of leadership combined with their genuine care for others makes them magnetic and lovable. This makes 3w2s absolutely enchanting people. The unique gifts of a 3w2Ī 3w2 has all the perception of a Three, with the loving heart of a Two. These skills combined make it easy for a 3w2 to get what they want out of others–often at that person’s expense.īut! Their propensity for manipulation is just the wrong side of one of the 3w2s biggest gifts. They are very good at reading the room and figuring other people out, and they have a natural ability to connect. Typically, this manipulation is completely unintentional and subconscious. Threes with a Two wing can also be masters of manipulation. It’s really hard for 3w2s to accept the flaws and shortcomings of others…in large part because they have a hard time accepting those things about themselves, too. The fear behind that boundless energy is this: if the performance stops, the 3w2 will be seen as a failure and no one will love them.īecause 3w2s are quick to pick up people’s slack, work harder than everyone else, jump in with enthusiasm, and generally hustle, it can frustrate (nay, infuriate) them when others aren’t willing to do the same. For a 3w2 who loves to be the life of the party, this performance can become quite literal…they feel they have to constantly entertain, amuse, or satisfy everyone. Threes already believe that they have to perform to be loved. Neither of those things are bad–in fact, they are great qualities!–but 3w2s often work too hard in order to get people to like them, and this can leave them feeling depleted, resentful, and hurt. Threes with a Two wing like to work hard and they like to be liked. A Two may even know what you need before you do! The struggles of a 3w2 Twos are a picture of love-they are the first to give, serve, encourage, or listen to you anytime they sense that you need it. Threes help people see who they could become, and empower others to grow in their unique gifts. They are world-changers with the energy and enthusiasm to motivate and inspire those around them. Threes on the Enneagram are the Energizer bunny of all the types. What does a 3w2 look like?įor starters, here’s a quick look at Threes and Twos, separately. Threes with a Two wing are high-capacity achievers who love nothing more than to meet and exceed the expectations of their bosses, coworkers, and friends.Įxtra special bonus points if the project benefits others–3w2s love to work on behalf of the betterment of those around them. What is a 3w2?Ī 3w2 is a Three with a supercharged ability to read the room, adapt to the needs or wants of others, and make everyone love them. …then you might just be a Three with a Two wing (3w2).
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